SETTLING FOR LESS IN A RELATIONSHIP?

Hello everybody, how are y'all doing? It's the last Friday of August and baby, we're riding the hell outta this year. Meanwhile, i was away last weekend- the reason you didn't have a post, i had gone to check on my darling mother and i must say it was all nice. I hope you are all well and progressing! Thanks for dropping by again, ...forever grateful!

I thought we would talk about one of the most complex issues on earth- RELATIONSHIPS. Now, i'm not somewhere close to an expert in this but i just thought i would share what i want someone out there to know, for i have seen it happen and affect us especially the ladies. This is in no way meant to offend our male counterparts, (we love underneath it all), i'm only 'just saying'. First off, maybe you could do a background check on your current status, whether you are dating, married or even planning to start 'seeing someone'.

IMBALANCE IN DECISION MAKING
Have you had or are you in a relationship where you can't even decide on where you are going to have dinner, dress someway, have a schedule for activities of your own... do you report to your partner about you sending your sister 2k airtime ...and so forth, you need to sit down and evaluate this whole thing. By the time we decide to be in a relationship/ partnership/ situationship, whatever it is for your case, we are old enough to have a life of our own, a part of which we want to design and manage the way we want. Once you have no rights to do this anymore, darling, get back to the drawing board and find your bearings. One head cannot be the overall in everything!

ONE WAY CONSTRUCTION
Okay, i used the word construction for a reason, if you are the one making the first deposit for your savings and eventually the other person never comes through with theirs, there is an issue. If you are the one concerned about running the house entirely, calling the plumber, buying groceries, paying kids' school dues, clearing bills while your other half only comes to the kitchen table for a glass of juice, honnie, do some maths and gauge a way forward. It should be two way, imagine a building raised to the 4th floor on one side and still on the basement level the other side- it will fall in any minute. Don't wait for your own blocks to bury you! Are we together??

ARE YOU HAPPY?
There is nothing that takes away life like an unhappy relationship, i have been there, trust me there is nothing like getting used to nursing a heartache. The pain is fresh every morning when you wake up, the thought of how your partner yelled at you in front of your friends constantly plays vividly in your mind. When your kids ask you why "daddy doesn't buy ice cream like my friend's dad," it feels bad and however much you want to protect your babies from the truth, you can't deny the fact that it eats you up each day.
Do you look at couples holding hands, laughing together, being happy even with less and you recall your boyfriend/hubby only smiles at you when he wants "some"? What exactly then, are you longing for in this so called relationship? Personally, i would say, prioritize your happiness and well being because at the end of the day, not everyone we meet is meant to hurt us, stop sticking in unhappy love stories because you are afraid of people bad mouthing you, calling you loose....it doesn't matter, the pain is felt by you and only you can redeem yourself to a better place.

How we moving on with the year, HAPPY

SOCIAL LIMITATIONS
I know a man whose wife never attends a party, a social meeting or even visit friends and relatives, the reason is..."she will learn bad stuff, manners from those people, i don't want her getting involved with those sluts," so says the man. Now seriously, is that life? Money can buy you all the good things on earth, earn you some reputation but it never hugs you when your world is crumbling down, neither does it smile with you when your days are bright. Life is so much more than just this damn man or woman who is tying you to his sitting room. FREE YOUR MIND AND SELF FROM THOSE AWKWARD, STUPID BONDAGES.

STOP BUILDING EMPIRES ON TRUST
Let's get this straight. You meet someone, like them, love them, trust them and start to save up money for developing yourselves, ON TRUST....buy land, build houses, make investments, ON TRUST...get loans start new projects, ON TRUST? Open kid's accounts, insurance, ON TRUST? Fuck your trust, if you don't have anything solid and legal to show for all this, you own nothing! Learn to make paperwork and involve legal terms and conditions in all those agreements because once you have a case before court let's say a divorce(God forbid) you don't pull out your dear heart and present it before the judge, telling them you trusted your partner and you co-own this and that, it must have a title or deed and your name, signature and whatever else may fit. If need be, get a copy of your tongue print there, for there is none like yours,..haha.

IT'S NEVER TOO LATE
In December 2011, an elderly couple Antonio, 99 years old and Rosa, 96 years old called it quits from their 77 years marriage with a divorce following an infidelity affair as confessed by Rosa. Why do i have to mention this? Well, imagine a 99 year old splitting with a wife he's spent 77 years of his  with....BUT WHY NOT? If splitting from her would earn him a good nights sleep, then so be it. Why then is it so hard for you to move on from a two years toxic relationship, are you waiting for a dagger to cut through your throat so you can denounce him or her on your death bed? Oh come on, is it really worth it? You can lose everything and start all over again, maybe recover part of it but when you lose yourself, there is absolutely nothing to fall back to. So if your partner and the whole relationship only drains life and happiness out of you, sis, bro, what on earth are you waiting for?

Lastly my beautiful people, DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE SOMEONE'S OPTION WHEN YOU CAN GLADLY BE SOMEONE ELSE'S PRIORITY! DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS WHEN YOU CAN RIGHTLY HAVE AND ARE ENTITLED TO MORE.
I love y'all and thanks for reading. I'm awaiting your comments, what do you think of this?

DEAR CORPORATE PEOPLE

Good Day everybody, ....its a Friday again and we are grooving to Patie Polly's Beats; let's talk about our Managing Directors, Executive Directors, Head of departments, everybody that has a desk, a work station, space that they run or manage, yes The Corporate People in the Corporate world. I personally have had endless encounters with these fellas, considering my kind  my job, it's definitely what i have to deal with each day.

Everybody would like to have an address at a job, responsibilities that will earn us a penny at the end of the month. Or so our childhood dreams were. When we get that appointment letter to our new job, we want to call for a celebration, when we get promoted to a bigger position, we just can't help it but smile even at dim mirrors. But what happens a few months after we have 'conquered' that little territory? Where do we forget our manners each morning when we come to work? What goes wrong with treating people like we used to before we became one of the 'big bosses'?

The worst and most bothering experience i have had is dealing with the "Lunch hour break" that lasts forever. Mid day, 1 pm, 2 pm,....are we still in this break? Its so annoying when you have to deal with most of these 'big bosses' whose break lasts a lifetime till 3:40 pm and by 4:20 pm "you may have to come back tomorrow" as their secretaries/assistants will say. Maybe i'm not in the know but as far as i remember, most of these companies and institutions have a label at the building entrances indicating their daily working hours, what then happens in these offices? I never find a note on the office door indicating a different schedule of work!

People do relax in the green lash but i had never done so till last week.

Last week i had to pick some documents from some 'big boss' which were really urgent. This person was aware of this, even though i didn't "make a formal appointment" to meet them. So as usual, I'm rushing against the clock, crossing from Bank of Baroda to Worker's  House like some thug being chased around so i can be able to catch this person before they "step out" of office. At exactly 12: 27 pm, i showed up to an empty chair and like i said, the assistant told me,"she is out for lunch, you may have to come back at around 2." I insisted and inquired if she could be reached via phone call, to which this assistant agreed only to hear the phone ring in one of the drawers! What??? These people don't even take their phones with them, they don't wanna accommodate any inconveniences while they go on with their business, Jesus save the queen....!


So, i stormed out of office, slammed the door behind me and stared at the long corridor covered with a nice maroon carpet, pondering about what i have to occupy myself with till 2 or even 3 pm. A subtle thought alerted me of window shopping at Boulevard, but then i couldn't loam around for two hours,....these shop attendants don't like you 'just checking out' their staff without even picking a thing, they start monitoring you on their cameras, just in case you are a thief! That plan was a dead one, i didn't know where to be thou,...can't stand in the middle of nowhere for that long.

Just so you know, i got them shoes off and relaxed!

Long story short, i ended up under a huge tree shade, "Awo nga ku City Square" never thought i would be one of the people i see there till i was comfortably sipping on a cold Novida, sold to me by this lady who kept pacing around "my space", momentarily raising her eyebrows at me, asking if i wanted something. It clocked 2:30 pm, i commuted back to worker's house only to be told,"You just missed her, she will be in office tomorrow by 9 am. I wasn't feeling fresh enough already, my deodorant was wearing away with each hour under the tree, and now i had to deal with another stream of sweat that couldn't help but steam my forehead anew.

DEAR CORPORATE PEOPLE, STOP TOSSING US AROUND, CANCELLING APPOINTMENTS WITH NO PRIOR COMMUNICATION AND BEING TOO LAZY TO PICK A STAMP FROM YOUR MATE WHO IS IN THE ADJACENT OFFICE THEREFORE MAKING US WAIT 15 MINUTES TILL YOU MAKE A CALL FOR THE SAME. WE TOO, HAVE BOSSES WAITING FOR THEM DAMN DOCUMENTS, THANK YOU.

HERE ARE THE WINNERS, Y'ALL READY?

Another Friday, Another Blog and some winning too. Good morning esteemed readers, i hope you are having a great time. Thank you for being here once again and congratulations to all the winners. I couldn't have come this far without your support, its only right that i give back to you, ins't it?

Here we go.

So without further ado, lets get straight to the day's main activity, haha,...sounds like some school sports day.

In the previous blog, i mentioned that i will be rewarding six people. Three of the winners are those who have been consistent with the blog and the other three had queries to answer. One person has got their airtime already, She was the first to read and comment on the post ASAP. Two questions are not answered yet ie: My all time favorite boyband and the song whose lyrics i mentioned in the post, the second slot was for the first person to subscribe to the blog. So just in case you ain't among the winners down below, you still have a chance to win 1000ushs worth of airtime.

After a thorough analysis, here are the people who came out fit for the first, second and third positions. They have read, commented and have been consistent with the blog from the start. NOTE: Commenting in my inbox, WhatsApp is so much appreciated but for this very campaign, it doesn't count. Only comments on the patiepolly.blogspot.com will win you a prize. Some of your emails don't show identity, they only appear as unknown, this can be rectified in your email settings, you can choose to "enable access to your profile" so it shows your email address or user name, thanks. Otherwise i can't locate you guys,...but i do appreciate you so much, more than you think.

The 5k airtime goes to @HopeB, 4K goes to @Merilyn, 3K goes to @Elisha and @According to Nduhu(these two came in a tie). @SharonK won instant airtime and received it already. Congratulations to you guys, you will have your airtime by the end of the day. Next giveaways will be tangibles so y'all have chances to win. Keep Keeping Up With PATIE POLLY'S TAKE For 'Season Two Rewards' which is due December this very year. Love you guys and take care of your selves. 

Let's catch up: Patie Polly(FaceBook) @PatiePolly (Instagram &Twitter) 

IT'S APPRECIATION/ GIVEAWAY TIME- I'M REWARDING YOU GUYS

A good morning beautiful people, it's shinning bright and sweet here in Kampala, i hope you are having some ray daggers of the sun mounting your walls somewhere. It's truly a beautiful day, i hope it brings you happiness and breakthrough. Okay, enough of the greetings.

So, it's been four successful months since PATIE POLLY'S TAKE rolled the curtains sideways and commenced on an adventure that i must say has been exciting and educating. Thank you guys for always dropping by the blog, leaving a comment and not to say, ask me on Friday morning, "where is the link?" It gives me satisfaction when you guys write back and tell me you relate to the blogs, you have learnt something and you enjoy reading my stuff. I do appreciate all of you for your time, love and the 5 minutes sacrifice you make to read and make my dreams a reality.

The 15 blog posts, since the 5th of April 2019, have created an interface for me and you to laugh, learn and share minds. My audience from allover the universe, and more so here in Uganda has taught one thing, TO START NOW, DO IT NOW. I never knew i would get here, thought maybe the reading culture has died down for many people, but no, YOU,my esteemed readers have given me much more than that.

For all the above reasons, i will be rewarding three people who have been consistent with the reading, commenting and giving the blog a good vibe. I will be giving out airtime worth 5,000 ugx to the first person, 4,000 ugx to the second and 3,000 to the third winner, next week on Friday. And i will give out 1,000 ugx airtime to the first person who reads and comments on this very post, INSTANTLY. As we progress, we will have more of the tangible give-aways like t-shirts branded patie polly's take so be on the look out for these gifts.

If u are using a phone, here is how u subscribe, go to web version.

Meanwhile, you can also subscribe from the homepage so you get to be on my mailing list. The first person to subscribe today also gets 1,000 ugx worth of airtime on whichever network. Giving back to you my audience was one of the driving forces that kept me on the lookout for more content because honestly who wouldn't want some 5k for freaky Friday data? I'm here for you, just like you are always here for me too. So get it guys, let's have some fun and LIVE WHILE WE'RE YOUNG( so goes some lyrics from my all time favorite boy band). Oh, whoever comments down below the name of the song and the band gets themselves 1,000 ugx airtime.

Type in your email and follow instructions to submit.

Alright, love you guys, hope to interact more with the winners. Please leave your email once you answer any of these so i know how to contact you for your phone number. Or you can write down the number if u don't mind, let's win together. Catch you later lovelies, looking forward to next Friday to unveil the winners, good luck to y'all.