SETTLING FOR LESS IN A RELATIONSHIP?

Hello everybody, how are y'all doing? It's the last Friday of August and baby, we're riding the hell outta this year. Meanwhile, i was away last weekend- the reason you didn't have a post, i had gone to check on my darling mother and i must say it was all nice. I hope you are all well and progressing! Thanks for dropping by again, ...forever grateful!

I thought we would talk about one of the most complex issues on earth- RELATIONSHIPS. Now, i'm not somewhere close to an expert in this but i just thought i would share what i want someone out there to know, for i have seen it happen and affect us especially the ladies. This is in no way meant to offend our male counterparts, (we love underneath it all), i'm only 'just saying'. First off, maybe you could do a background check on your current status, whether you are dating, married or even planning to start 'seeing someone'.

IMBALANCE IN DECISION MAKING
Have you had or are you in a relationship where you can't even decide on where you are going to have dinner, dress someway, have a schedule for activities of your own... do you report to your partner about you sending your sister 2k airtime ...and so forth, you need to sit down and evaluate this whole thing. By the time we decide to be in a relationship/ partnership/ situationship, whatever it is for your case, we are old enough to have a life of our own, a part of which we want to design and manage the way we want. Once you have no rights to do this anymore, darling, get back to the drawing board and find your bearings. One head cannot be the overall in everything!

ONE WAY CONSTRUCTION
Okay, i used the word construction for a reason, if you are the one making the first deposit for your savings and eventually the other person never comes through with theirs, there is an issue. If you are the one concerned about running the house entirely, calling the plumber, buying groceries, paying kids' school dues, clearing bills while your other half only comes to the kitchen table for a glass of juice, honnie, do some maths and gauge a way forward. It should be two way, imagine a building raised to the 4th floor on one side and still on the basement level the other side- it will fall in any minute. Don't wait for your own blocks to bury you! Are we together??

ARE YOU HAPPY?
There is nothing that takes away life like an unhappy relationship, i have been there, trust me there is nothing like getting used to nursing a heartache. The pain is fresh every morning when you wake up, the thought of how your partner yelled at you in front of your friends constantly plays vividly in your mind. When your kids ask you why "daddy doesn't buy ice cream like my friend's dad," it feels bad and however much you want to protect your babies from the truth, you can't deny the fact that it eats you up each day.
Do you look at couples holding hands, laughing together, being happy even with less and you recall your boyfriend/hubby only smiles at you when he wants "some"? What exactly then, are you longing for in this so called relationship? Personally, i would say, prioritize your happiness and well being because at the end of the day, not everyone we meet is meant to hurt us, stop sticking in unhappy love stories because you are afraid of people bad mouthing you, calling you loose....it doesn't matter, the pain is felt by you and only you can redeem yourself to a better place.

How we moving on with the year, HAPPY

SOCIAL LIMITATIONS
I know a man whose wife never attends a party, a social meeting or even visit friends and relatives, the reason is..."she will learn bad stuff, manners from those people, i don't want her getting involved with those sluts," so says the man. Now seriously, is that life? Money can buy you all the good things on earth, earn you some reputation but it never hugs you when your world is crumbling down, neither does it smile with you when your days are bright. Life is so much more than just this damn man or woman who is tying you to his sitting room. FREE YOUR MIND AND SELF FROM THOSE AWKWARD, STUPID BONDAGES.

STOP BUILDING EMPIRES ON TRUST
Let's get this straight. You meet someone, like them, love them, trust them and start to save up money for developing yourselves, ON TRUST....buy land, build houses, make investments, ON TRUST...get loans start new projects, ON TRUST? Open kid's accounts, insurance, ON TRUST? Fuck your trust, if you don't have anything solid and legal to show for all this, you own nothing! Learn to make paperwork and involve legal terms and conditions in all those agreements because once you have a case before court let's say a divorce(God forbid) you don't pull out your dear heart and present it before the judge, telling them you trusted your partner and you co-own this and that, it must have a title or deed and your name, signature and whatever else may fit. If need be, get a copy of your tongue print there, for there is none like yours,..haha.

IT'S NEVER TOO LATE
In December 2011, an elderly couple Antonio, 99 years old and Rosa, 96 years old called it quits from their 77 years marriage with a divorce following an infidelity affair as confessed by Rosa. Why do i have to mention this? Well, imagine a 99 year old splitting with a wife he's spent 77 years of his  with....BUT WHY NOT? If splitting from her would earn him a good nights sleep, then so be it. Why then is it so hard for you to move on from a two years toxic relationship, are you waiting for a dagger to cut through your throat so you can denounce him or her on your death bed? Oh come on, is it really worth it? You can lose everything and start all over again, maybe recover part of it but when you lose yourself, there is absolutely nothing to fall back to. So if your partner and the whole relationship only drains life and happiness out of you, sis, bro, what on earth are you waiting for?

Lastly my beautiful people, DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE SOMEONE'S OPTION WHEN YOU CAN GLADLY BE SOMEONE ELSE'S PRIORITY! DON'T SETTLE FOR LESS WHEN YOU CAN RIGHTLY HAVE AND ARE ENTITLED TO MORE.
I love y'all and thanks for reading. I'm awaiting your comments, what do you think of this?