STOP PLAYING THE COMPARISON GAME, IT RUINS STUFF.

Good morning ladies and gentlemen, it's 11/10/2019 and like i have mentioned before, years must be chasing after some holy grail, dang,...i even heard Christmas songs playing at my local shop(guess they are a little too early though) haha..but that's to bring you up to speed with this virtual marathon.

A little throw back to 2018

Okay, back to business, when i was a young girl, i admired our housemaid so much. She was tough, had a commanding voice and all those qualities i wanted to have. She looked curvaceous in her skirts(always) while i appeared straight head to toe. I always wished to be like her, with the authority she possessed. One day, she punished me for a mistake i did, and while i served  my punishment, i said to myself, "if i weren't young, i would not be doing this." Little did i know that she actually heard me lamenting and she said to me, "wait for your time, when you grow up, you will also boss  around."

Now that's exactly the piece i was missing in the puzzle. Comparing myself to a person who had 20 years ahead of my life was nothing but giving  myself migraines. While i didn't notice how sad i was because of being young...and wishing i was older, i now know that i deprived myself of some peace of mind as a child. To be sincere, there are nights i spent sleepless imagining how best i could be tough towards Sylvia(oh that's her name) but at the break of dawn, Sylvia would cool our(My elder brother Hope and I) porridge and as she handed me my cup, all my anger vanished like a sweet dream. I laugh hard each time i recall my "war" plans against older people.

I'm enjoying my photography sessions these days. ShotsbyPolly.

See, just like me, there are so many of you guys out there,....you look at some young girl cruising a Chevrolet and some sort of fire consumes your whole being and you start to wonder,"gosh she actually looks younger than me, i am 26 and i don't even own a fridge to keep my fruits at home." Stuff like that take away happiness and makes you feel less of what you really are, so a better way to keep up your energy is appreciate your own abilities and also keep in mind that there lots of people who secretly admire you for who you really are. We used to call them SAs(Secret Admirers) way back at Maryhill High School, @Rose @Cathy do you copy????

This is for my male counterparts: I had a friend who always admired women of a certain class, but looked down on himself because, well he wasn't established yet. One day he decided to join a gang or cult of some sort,...those guys had no proper legit jobs but they were always dripping in Calvin Klein V necks. He admired them, compared his Kaja jeans(Oh btw, FYI kaja is not a brand, its a place in down town Kampala where you can buy cheap clothes) to their Boo Hoo, Levis dark wash pants ,...and so on. Three months down the road, he was one of the "boys" and he actually hooked up a girl he always wanted.

All was well until hell broke loose as the gang leader was arrested and so the shady business (whatever it was) closed shop. By then my buddy had quickly adopted to a life which he unfortunately couldn't sustain without a well paying normal job. Long story short, the girl moved out ASAP, and moved in with some City tycoon's loaded son,....the landlord confiscated whatever the guy had over uncleared rent arrears and poor friend was back to what,...square one,..NO, some negative digit. Now, was all that really worth it? I am a woman so i can't judge him, maybe you guys can let me know in the comments down below. Stop playing the comparison game people.

Sending you some sky vibes as seen from Nakulabye! ShotsbyPolly

I have had my fair share of the downsides of the game too. I look at some ladies and they are literally like some carefully sculptured beings, and then i go, " oh dear non-existent booty, who hurt you? I mean i could use some bit of a bump,......blah blah...." That used to happen a lot before i discovered that some of the babes with tantalizing asses have trouble fitting in jeans and some cute leather skirts! Haha, that could be one of the reasons  why i started to appreciate my 42 kgs slender physique and complain less. As women, we find that a lot and while we focus on some one's hour glass body, we lose touch with the amazing  almond eyes God gave us, which is totally wrong. All this comes from comparing ourselves and belongings to someone else's.

While sometimes its a motivation for us to work harder and achieve something, it shouldn't be a distraction from our self worth. It's helpful in one way or the other but it comes with such a huge momentum that we rush so fast, hitting every obstacle along the way at full speed without slowing down to get our bearings  right, and in the end, we miss the target. So, let's take the positive out of admiration and let go of what makes us feel less of the strong,  able, courageous and amazing people that we already are.

LOVE,
            PATIENCE.