DEALING WITH LOSS, PERSONAL LESSONS

Hello, welcome back to Patie Polly's Take. I'm glad you are here. Hope you are well and progressing, ....and that's my wish for  y'all.

Got my edges popping for a Friday.

 Very often, our lives are full of uncertainties. Today this, tomorrow that, it's shinning bright one minute and the other it's a thick blanket of dark clouds. What's unfortunate or fortunate is that we often don't have any control over these happenings, the satisfying occurrences and the disheartening mishaps alike. Sometimes we encounter both the tragic and comic in one film setting and we don't know how to feel,....we are just in between, balancing on a knife-edge where we can fall off over to the "not good" or back to something "soft and snuggly"

I bet we all have had that moment when we have to face the harsh reality of dealing with loss. Somehow somewhere, we have lost our loved ones, relationships that we have invested in for a long time or even days (doesn't make a big difference), a job that we have dedicated ourselves to or even that 'once in a lifetime' opportunity to fulfill our dreams or attain that life we have always yearned for. Whatever the cause and magnitude of the loss maybe, at the end of the day when we fall back into our beds, we feel it, right in our gut like a forming ulcer, with a raging fire consuming our entire being. Wishing it could all be a twisted dream that we can wake up from. That's human and we can't run away from it, however, we all need to learn to handle the pain in a way that won't destroy and break us down.

When you are trying to get that "serious" shot!

Let it hurt, Let it bleed, Let it Heal and let it go!
On many occasions, when we fail to meet the requirements to join a university of our dreams, when we call it quits from a 2, 3 or 25 year relationship, when we fail to make it to the finals(which would probably shine the brightest light on our talent/career), a good percentage of us as a human race will be or feel utterly shattered, hopeless, weak, incapable and lost in a cruel wild world. We identify with that wounded fish in a rowdy ocean where we become a clear target and a heavenly grail for the sharks to attack and feast on. With each scratch, we bleed so bad, send subtle signals to our predators to make no haste in devouring our mortal bodies. Once the dagger-like teeth of the monstrous sharks cut into our muscle, we can't put up a fight but only surrender to the enemy and we are no more. We allow sadness to scrape our nerves and soften our spirit for the final kill.

However, we can choose to deal with the tough situations with brave minds and courageous souls. If there is anything that waters us down most times its our own selves. Even before the exterior attacks reach us, before people tell us "we ain't good enough, ain't beautiful enough, ain't smart enough....", we have already professed to ourselves that we "can't move on without our partners, can't manage to get a new job,...even when the current is a dead-end one, can't take care of our people because we are grieving the ones we lost....blah blah"
We need to be our own "knights in shining armor", we have to be understanding, 'simple yet strong' like a palm tree at an ocean coast. The palm doesn't choose to be there, in bare sand...but because that's where God has placed it, it learns that the ocean winds are here to stay and so adopts to following the direction of wind, ..sways each day and breaks not. It endures the greatest storms because it has mastered the art of bending gracefully.

Its been quite dusty,..don't mind the shoes. 

Have you ever wondered why sometimes we have a 'season for problems'? Here is what i have come to learn, when we lose a friend or parent, our hearts are so heavy that we tend not care about anybody, even ourselves. We even neglect our responsibilities to which we must be answerable  eventually, like it or not. The more we ignore what we have, the more we lose touch with what makes us happy. We then start to realize that our friends and family are sad and mad at us because we are drowning our entire world in a pit which they are actually trying hard to enable us to jump over.
 Even when we are hurting, it's okay to cry and grieve but vital to be aware of  the surrounding, the people who love and care about us and most importantly not put aside the fact that we have a lot of stuff to be thankful for and appreciate. So long as we still have life, each day is yet another second chance to be better, more successful and live much stronger with the memories that we never can escape.

At the thin line of our breaking point lies the greatest will power,....the strength to make one more step to keep us afloat amidst the high tides. Always remember that.

I didn't want to sound like some grey bearded prophet in the old testament but just found myself using such examples. I hope you enjoy this easy read and pick out something to better your day. I'M OUT,....✌✌